The Commitment Trap

I once proposed an intriguing offer to a guy I was dating exclusively for several years. He was also, at the time, my first long-term relationship: “What would you say if I suggested one or two times a year we go out separately for a weekend and ‘cheat without cheating?’ We could do whatever we wanted with other people, and there would be only one rule: if we had sex, we … Continue reading The Commitment Trap

Double standards: Women, I’m looking at you.

Double standards are rife within our culture and everybody has some idea of how they affect us. When people hear those words, one of the first things that come to mind are the inequalities that face women. That’s not what is inspiring me to write this post though, at least not today. Right now I want to discuss an experience one of my male friends had … Continue reading Double standards: Women, I’m looking at you.

C’mon, Don’t Objectify Me

If you have breasts and a vagina, you’ve conceivably experienced sexual objectification by someone with testicles and a penis. Whether in the form of cat-calls, whistles, or boozy-bar come-ons, women have long been recipients of this form of communication. It appears some men like to do it or I suspect they wouldn’t, unless they somehow feel compelled to fulfill a stereotypical male role of those … Continue reading C’mon, Don’t Objectify Me

He’s Not My Boyfriend

The guy I’m having sex with isn’t my boyfriend. He’s not my husband either. Nor is he a friend with benefits. So what is he? I’ll get to that, but I repeat, he’s not my boyfriend. It’s not that I have a problem with boyfriends (or girlfriends). It’s just that I have a problem with the words that are thrown around and recycled. More specifically, … Continue reading He’s Not My Boyfriend